What is counselling?
Where to begin....
Counselling fits under the umbrella term 'talking therapies'.
It allows you to discuss your problems and any difficult feelings in a safe and confidential place with a counsellor who you build a working relationship with or as I like to say "Jel" with.
I specialise in working with relationships, addictions and body image helping you to find strategies to manage this, understand your patterns in relationships and help you move forward with your life instead of where you are now and what has lead you to seek counselling.
There is no typical person for whom counselling can be helpful. The most important thing is whether or not you want to change and are open to looking at the possibilities and choices you have to make.
I am a humanistic counsellor which basically means I have trained in many different approaches as not one case fits all as they say. Everyone is unique and I need to be adaptable as I am stepping into your shoes and seeing the world from your frame of reference.
At some point in your life you may feel stuck and want to evaluate where you are in your life, where you want to be and how to get there. Counselling offers this in a safe, supportive and non-judgemental space. This in turn allows you the opportunity to explore your thoughts and feelings and to make sense of your circumstances at your own pace.
Counselling can help you understand yourself better and help with the way you think, which will ultimately help you develop a clearer understanding of your problems.
Counselling is not a 'quick fix' but more of a process. A process through which you can come to a greater understanding of yourself and your relationships with other people and the impact this all has on your life.
Its simply an exchange from one human to another.
I will not offer you advice because I am not the expert on you. I believe that you are the expert on you, after all you have been there the whole way through. I will listen and reflect and together we will start to open the box of "stuff". That may be corner by corner, or poking holes into it or ripping the lid off. Whatever feels okay for you and I will be there when we do.
I believe it is important to find someone you connect with, someone you find empathic and able to trust. As a member of BACP, I adhere to strict guidelines and a set of standards which ensure a responsible code of conduct with you, the client.
I believe the relationship between a counsellor and client should be a special relationship, where connection and trust is built and in turn will create a safe space to explore. If we meet and for any reason we don't feel we "jel" together then I would signpost or refer you to another counsellor who may "jel" better with you or be able to help you with your problems you are bringing to counselling. Sometimes sadly I am not able to help, and I am very honest in those cirmstances.
If I feel you need additional support, like financial services, GP, Groups or out of hour service I will signpost these as counselling is not 24/7 support or other services may be better to help with providing you with advice.
“Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom”
The Snow Globe Effect
I like to describe counselling to be like the snow globe effect.
When you shake a snow globe, everything goes a little bit messy and your vision is impaired. for a short time there is no clarity. However the snow will settle, in its own time when its ready. The snow may settle in the same place or may settle in a new spot.... but trusting the process it will settle, hopefully in a different way creating change....